Frequently Asked Questions
FAQ
Can I come to session if I’m sick?
I am currently only seeing clients online for telehealth (video) therapy, so it’s entirely up to you to determine whether you are feeling well enough to attend session. If you are not feeling well enough, please let me know as soon as possible by texting me. For further questions, please see my Contact page.
What is your stance on Conversion Therapy?
I do not support Conversion Therapy, also known as Reparative Therapy. Other than Conversion Therapy being illegal in California, it is also incredibly harmful to clients. One does not choose their sexual orientation, rather it is something they are born with. If you are looking for this type of therapy, I encourage you to read more about the dangers of Conversion Therapy by reading this article on the Human Rights website.
I see that you specialize in LGB relationships. What about the rest of the LGBTQ+ Community?
Although my key focus is on LGB relationships, I am an affirming therapist for all of the LGBTQ+ Community (Transgender, Non-binary, Polyamorous relationships, etc.). That being said, due to being a gay cisgender man, I recognize that my views are limited and I am in a constant state of learning more about the Community. If you have any questions about my skills and experience, please visit my About Me or Contact page and give me a call to see if I would be a good fit for you.
What does “hetero-normativity” mean?
This is a term that refers to the basic assumption that being heterosexual (straight) is the normal, standard sexual orientation, and that anyone who identifies as LGBTQ+ is outside that norm. A typical example of this is that when a boy is growing up, his parents will more likely than not ask him questions about girls such as, “When are you bringing home a girl?” without ever asking the boy about his sexuality because it was already assumed.
I have already come out to my friends and family, but I still have issues in my life related to my sexuality. Do you see clients who have already come out?
Short answer: Yes. Long answer: The “Coming Out Journey” is a lifelong process. People like you and me in the LGBTQ+ Community don’t have the luxury to stop coming out because we live in a hetero-normative society, which means that every new person we meet—a new neighbor, doctor, nurse, boss, coworker, etc.—will most likely assume we are another cisgender, straight person, unless we state otherwise. The therapy I offer isn’t only for people who are just beginning to Navigate the Coming Our Journey, but also for those who are continuing to navigate it for the rest of their lives.